It’s that time of year again when we wrap up our Thanksgiving and start looking to the holidays then the New Year. I know you’re going to be busy with the holidays coming up but while you’re busy with that, thoughts will be flowing about getting a strong start back Read More
Today share with you the importance of homeschooling and raising your children in the middle of life unfolding every day. Handling them with kid gloves, protecting them from seeing you in the different levels of emotions can actually hold them back in life and possibly become a stumbling block for them.
Doubts or Inspiration, You Choose
I began home educating my children in the Dark Ages. No there were no knights on horses battling with swords but it was a time that we all did our academics away from the world, in the privacy of our homes, usually with the drapes drawn. There were no curriculum fairs, local stores with a homeschool section, people didn’t openly share their homeschool practices and Google wouldn’t appear for another three years. While it was perfectly legal, it was definitely not socially acceptable. But we did it anyway.
Carrying on the wisdom of the ages is not something widely supported or collectively acceptable but if you look all through history and those currently making a real difference in the world, none of them entertained collective practices but rather selective choices. Greatness in yourself and your children is not for the faint of heart. You are being called to step up into living by inspiration both for yourself as well as your children. If you want them to elevate to greatness, you’re going to have to as well to be able to empower them to their greatness. And that’s the beauty of home education; it’s for the whole family to rise up, live inspired and make a real difference in the world.
Don’t be carried away with your doubts about being able to give your children the education they need or be able to bring them up into the life they are meant to live. Some people voice loudly, “I don’t think I can do this,” some even louder, “I could never do that,” “I don’t have what it takes,” then rolls in the “I’m not good enough, smart enough, have enough…”
As a busy mom with a busy family, moms can sometimes be the last to get their refill on energy, have space to think and time to be still, eat a warm meal, or have a break between fixing things, solving other peoples issues, and cleaning up messes. When our day begins, our feet hit the floor running. I myself am one to keep going all day until time to tuck myself.
I think mom’s middle name is give, it’s just what we do because we wouldn’t have it any other way. We love and are grateful for our families beyond measure. But unfortunately if we let ourselves go too long, always giving and never receiving, we become out of balance. I used to be very nervous about such talk of receiving more. In fact, any attention on me or special occasions were difficult to receive without feeling like I should be doing the work. I had all kinds of justifications and beliefs to support myself always giving and never receiving. Letting myself be the one is who always up all night, doing it all, being there for everyone, serving everyone else first, eating lukewarm meals, basically trying to be super mom but never admitting it because it’s not super, it’s just what I do.
Then I ran out. I crashed. I burned. I almost died. It was cumulative over the years. Even though I had taught my children to help and my husband and I did a lot of partnering, I still sacrificed myself to everyone else. In my mind there was no way I could take for myself. I was simply unwilling to fully receive.
Today we have great celebrations in our home, both the Thanksgiving holiday with our loved ones as well as my husband’s birthday, which this year falls on Thanksgiving day.
It took several days of planning, preparation and long hours of cooking yet through it all I found myself diving into deep thoughts like “I am purposeful and present for my family.” And so this becomes my mantra, grounding me to be fully present and purposeful for and with my family.
Through it all I’m noticing and paying attention to the family dynamics, how truly balanced we are together, even when it doesn’t seem so. In between the demands of coordinating and moments where stress could have easily taken over we have to stay focused on the unity of love and abundance.
As the holiday passes we are still left with the opportunity to practice this continued gratitude in all we do as well as share it with others. It’s the way we live and the way we love.
I am especially grateful to be here with you and even though this year has been quite a challenge for me and my health, it has brought so much new light and love to my life so I am now able to be more on purpose and see it all as love.
I care so deeply for people, it is my magnum opus to serve your highest good. There’s so much goodness. So much to be grateful for. So much to look forward to. Let’s learn and grow together!
I truly wish you a very blessed Thanksgiving that is filled with an abundance of gratitude, love and priceless moments with your loved ones; from our house to yours.
Peace and love,
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November/December 2011 View/Download PDF